If you are a Sensitive Creative type like me you will know that a lot of the time we sit in our houses thinking, “I can’t do that… What will people say??” You’ll do something you love, and then imagine people saying, “Who does she think she is doing that??” And then there are the times you actually hear of people really muttering those loaded questions.
I have heard it all. Most things I laugh at and brush off, but sometimes I get upset and think how can they say that? They don’t even know me! I get rattled and have a little tanty.
But I have come to the realization you have to turn that “I don’t care what people think” of me button on. Trust me it is there. I have found it.
It’s such a liberating function to switch that button on. Once it is on, all that time you spent worrying about what people were saying or about to say just vanishes! Then of course you end up having more energy to spend on what you want to do instead of filling your time fighting negative talk and the doubt of others.
People will try to tear you down. People who don’t know you. People who do know you. Switch the button on and turn to ‘Just don’t care mode’. Because you can. You can truly not care.
The brain is a powerful tool and we have the ability to train it to do remarkable things – Now bear in mind I am no expert I am just talking about my experiences. While I do think I am a freak of nature I am sure that everyone has the ability flick this switch, they just have to decide to do it.
No matter where you go in life you will meet people who have nothing better to do than talk about others. That’s their life choice. They don’t want to move away from their mundane existence as they savour every moment of gossiping.
I personally think this is a sad way to live and I don’t need to listen to gossip or even partake in it. It is a challenge as we are surrounded by gossip. Radio, TV and Social Media are all somebody’s angle of gossip… while some parts may be factual a whole lot of over exaggerated, idle gossip.
Do you know how to spot a gossip queen? They usually start the conversation, “I don’t like to gossip but …..”
So it’s time to stop the pointless, negative talk and start being present in your life. Make changes. Start asking for the facts if it is a situation that warrants it and then just tune out the rest.
If the gossip is about you then you can probably be reassured that you are on the right track in life. People will always tear you down if they think you are on a hill they can’t follow or keep up with.
So remember to stick to your goals and plans despite the noise. Stay positive, flick the switch to “I don’t care” and stay true to yourself.