From Victim to Victor: How Taking Ownership of My Life Changed Everything
I used to take ownership of nothing. I was always quick to blame others for everything that went wrong in my life. But one day, I realized something that changed everything. I was waiting for someone to save me, instead of taking charge of my life and making things happen for myself.
"I was sluething around in my life with no real direction. I had spent too much time losing myself in books and soap operas, wishing for anything better than the existence I was living then," I remember.
It was a cold, hard pill to swallow, but I had to admit that I was ultimately the problem. I needed to stop being the bystander and step into the lead role of my life. I needed to control my narrative and decide for myself what my life needed to be.
But it wasn't easy. Making these types of changes in your life is like something in the universe is set against you, and it will put some pretty heavy challenges in your way so you will fail. As if the universe is testing you to see how much you really want it.
That's when I started using the mantra every morning - "Today is the day I save myself." I repeated it all the time so that it replaced my negative victim voice.
It required me to step out of my comfort zone and face my fears, but I slowly started to take charge of my life. I set goals for myself and worked towards achieving them, even if it was one small step at a time. I stopped blaming others for my problems and started taking responsibility for my actions and decisions.
"I discovered that I was capable of achieving more than I ever thought possible. I found myself becoming more proactive, rather than reactive. I started to make decisions based on what I wanted for myself, instead of what others wanted for me," I explained.
"I began to trust in my abilities and, more importantly, trust myself. That trust was so small and wavering at the beginning, but it became one of the most important tools I use now and always by instinct. I trust my intuition on my ability to pull things off (projects, ideas, business goals)," I continued.
Looking back, I can see how far I've come. I'm no longer the person I used to be. I've grown, and I've learned so much about myself in the process. Life isn't always easy, but it's up to us to make the most of it.
If you're feeling stuck in a rut, remember that you have the power to take charge of your life. "You never know what amazing things could be waiting for you on the other side," I concluded.